What happened?

All of this winter weather has kept me inside and online more then usual this season. Plus, the TV is on during the daytime and that never happens.
I have noticed a rather disturbing occurance. Friends of my daughters will send me a friend request on Facebook. Once I accept and view their profile, they have pictures of children on there. They say that these kids are their children. IMpossible! It was only yesterday that these parents were that age and hanging out at our house or I was picking them up for schoool.
TV is on right now. Regis looks like Hell! How did he get so old? The soaps stars and story lines are just about the same as 20 years ago except for their ages. The ones that I thought were the main characters are now the Matriarchs that make occasional appearances.
The only reassuring thing that I have noticed is that I have something in common with some of these actresses. The strange new rules that my body seems to have adopted the past few years obviously are affecting other women.And, I have learned that the saying "Men only get better with age." is not always true!

Redefining Life –Lord Help Me!

I guess you don't notice life changes so much when your younger.You just go with the flow or you set goals. Then you can claw and fight your way through to accomplish them.

I have never been much of a "Go with the Flow" type.So, I set goals. MANY GOALS! Daily goals, weekly goals, monthly goals, yearly goals and even decade goals.I have made myself into a workaholic, stressed out mess at times. Well, most of my life if I am going to be honest.

This month I will turn 55 years old. When I hear that number, do you know what I think? Five years until 60!SIXTY! I have never paid much attention to getting older. I have always sort of liked it. The older you get the more you get by with.But SIXTY! That is near death! SIXTY is OLD! When I turned forty-didn't bother me. Then fifty- no sweat! But SIXTY! That is going to be weird. I will no longer be my mother - I will be my grandmother. You know what I mean!

This baby boomer generation has been very entertaining. I have watched so many of them fight to hold on to their youth. Plastic surgery, dieting, exercise, miracle drugs and creams! None of it worked- their still old but their faces won't move.lol When they started hitting forty the the magazines headlines were "Is 40 the New 30!". Fifty came along, then "Is 50 the new 30!" Haven't seen any articles about 60 being the new 30, have you? Because they have stretched it as far as possible. Sixty is old no matter how you look at it. Now you hear, "It's not the number, it's how you feel!" I am pretty sure when I turn 60 I am going to feel old! How can you not? Your SIXTY!

Back to the original subject- Redefining Life! I am tired of goals and trying to reach them.But I also know not to just go with the flow. Most times that flow is headed straight for the sewer.So, now what?

I am thinking of turning back the clock a little, to the time where I was raising my daughter. I cooked, baked and gardened.I think I would enjoy those things again especially since I have gotten rid of the first husband. With the first husband, nothing was ever good enough.That was exhausting! It seemed I was always trying to please someone who could never be pleased. But this one, the one I have now! Easy as pie! HA
I have worked and traveled so much since we have been together (15 years) that a home cooked meal is treated like a small miracle around here.If I ever made fresh bread for him, he would probably freak out and call a therapist for me.I used to love to make fresh bread. My favorite part was the kneading. Slap it around & mash it together, over & over. Now that I think about it, that might have just been fun when I was with my first husband. After all, I was imagining the dough as his head at the time.I guess I'll have to give it a try and see if it is as much fun as I remember without the hostility.
Gardening-hmmmmmmm. Randy might get a little nervous if he saw me dragging out a shovel.So, I'll just give him fair warning that I am planting a garden -not preparing to hide a body.
Ok-I have thought this through by typing it up. I am going to slow down-really. I am going to pull out the cookbooks and the gardening magazines. I will not allow myself to get caught up in goals.
Sure-- but this is all going to have to wait until I get through playing contractor for my brother's new house.Then I need to  design and built our new home. Of course, I still have my business.www.slumberpartiesbybecky.com  Alright, maybe I just need to ease into this slowing down thing.I will just bake some bread this week- oh crap- I just made a goal! This is not going to be easy!

NotYourTypicalGrandmother: Today's Grandmother!

NotYourTypicalGrandmother: Today's Grandmother!: "Picture the usual grandmother portrayed in most media. She has graying hair and a little on the fluffy (fat) side.She spends most of he..."

Today's Grandmother!

Picture the usual grandmother portrayed in most media. She has graying hair and a little on the fluffy (fat) side.She spends most of her time in the kitchen or at the local salon getting that graying hair shampooed and styled in a short, teased hair style.She always answers your questions with "Yes, Dear."She never curses or says anything bad about her grandchildren. Her grandchildren are her life and they can do no wrong!
OK- Erase that image because you are not going to get that here!
This Grandma dyes that gray away and is letting her hair grow long.What do I care about hair stylists that say short hair lifts your face? Nothing is going to lift this face except a plastic surgeon or a miracle. I really don't care! I have earned every wrinkle and they don't bother me.I could do without the sagging jowls but oh well.

Cooking-some family & friends think that I don't know how.I think it is best to leave it that way. I did the Susy Homemaker phase when I was raising my daughter.Cooking, baking, cleaning, sewing,gardening, canning my own produce-sure I can do it but why would I want to?
I answer the questions around here with the blunt truth and if they are stupid questions, maybe a few cuss words thrown in for emphasis.
I have 3 teenage grandchildren. Do I love them with all my heart? Of course! Are they perfect? Wake up,  People! I said teen aged- that should answer that question. They are running on hormones which has really dumbed them down the past few years.

Why am I writing this Blog? What do I expect from it? No Clue!
I hope to answer questions from younger people. Maybe those that don't have grandparents in their life.I will tell the truth whether you want to hear it or not. I am known for that.I have 55 years of life experience.In most cases. I have been there, done that! If I haven't done it then I know someone that has! I don't care what you ask- I am not easily shocked. If you do shock me, it would probably be a good jolt for my heart.

I am also completely over the menopause mountain and did it with no help from the medical field. I have NO estrogen and that makes for weird body experiences. I also have all my female parts in tact even if they aren't working anymore.Most women I know have had hysterectomies by now so it was an uncharted trip for me through Menopause Land!

Surprise! My only child, a daughter, has decided that after raising 3 children that were each born about a year apart and FINALLY getting them to the age where they can feed themselves (well sort of)- It is time to have ANOTHER! Yes, she is about 4 months prego! Here we go again......................

So, anything you want to throw at me is welcome! Please keep me entertained with your questions.It won't be hard, I am easily amused at life in general.